I have a bone to pick with the phrase “Do what you love and the money will follow.”

This is nothing new on my end, and smarter people than I have tackled this in their blogs. Many blame it on the book and film “The Secret.” It certainly resurrected after that. But I digress.


A friend told me she felt like a failure because her art hadn’t turned into a viable source of income. Since this was an email conversation, it took longer to express my opinion. But the short version is, just because you love doing something, doesn’t mean you can or should monetize it.

That’s a real short-coming in the American culture – that we need to monetize something to show it’s – or our- worth.

Would she stop creating just because she couldn’t quit her day job to do this full-time? And if she could, would it be as rewarding? That’s a question everyone has to answer who tries to start a business from a hobby they love.

I think the idea is, if you love doing something/creating something/daydreaming etc., it makes the work you do to support that activity, feel less like work.

It’s a shame so many of us feel we have to justify something we love to do, by trying to turn it into a business. For each successful cupcake entrepreneur, there are hundreds of disappointed bakers who couldn’t make it work as a business.

But there are thousands of happy bakers enjoying their creations and sharing them with friends and family.

This is the camp I fall in.

I won’t be quitting my day job, which by the way, I enjoy. It’s highly unlikely I will have some sort of healing or animal communication business. But I am a great resource for my friends and family. Maybe we need to be Gods of Small Things That Make Us Happy, and trust the ripple effect to bring joy and satisfaction to ourselves. And that might be enough.


7 thoughts on “Gods of Small Things That Make Us Happy

  1. A very salient point well written. Interestingly, hobbies are not the only things in life that lose “value” if we can’t monetize them. Ever notice as people age and retire from the work force they are viewed more as a burden (living off life -ex. social security) than an asset with countless years of experience?

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    1. Yes! Instead of valuing our elders for who they are – people who have lived a long time and had many experience, they are shelved and dismissed. Example – my husband suggested I stop coloring my hair. I refused because I am still working and appearances (sadly) count, especially when your board members are younger than you are! (I know that’s vanity, too )

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  2. As a poet, I see that yappery (and I see it far too often) and have to wonder, what if what you love isn’t a thing that makes money to start with, no matter how much you love it or how good you are at it? Then how does the pat little statement apply? The number of poets in the US who live entirely on their poetry can be counted on one hand; most of the best working poets survive by teaching. Or there’s van Gogh. He did what he loved, and yes, the money surely has rolled in, hasn’t it? But he didn’t see a whole lot of it. That “the money will come” tripe is right up there with “If you’re so smart, why aren’t you rich?” for bright red flags that my conversation with someone is going to be a very short one. *laugh*

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    1. Exactly. Its A OK and we should all do something we love doing. That is joy for joy’s sake and makes life richer for everyone. But monetizing it? No. It doesn’-t work like that.

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  3. I totally agree with these sentiments!

    Everyone needs to earn a living or else they will starve but I do get a little jaded when everything is about money and people won’t help each other unless they are paid handsomely for their time (an attitude they are encouraged to have to prove their worth…).

    I am not rich but I don’t turn my spirituality and metaphysical skills into a money making scheme because I believe all of what I do in those areas is to be shared with everyone, not just those who can afford it. Everyone can do what I do and do it for themselves, they just have to put the time, energy and intention in to learn how…I know this as I have done it myself.

    How sad that something which gave your friend so much pleasure has now been tainted emotionally for her and the joy taken out. I hope she gets back what is lost.

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    1. I hope she does too! I agree with you about sharing what i have learned, and mostly that others can learn too. I would rather show someone how to help themselves, then say, read tarot for them every two weeks.

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